Fools find no pleasure in understanding but delight in airing their own opinions. (Proverbs 18:2 NIV)

Ouch!  I consider myself corrected.  For whatever people make blogs and social media to be, they are above all else…opinions.  Status updates, tweets, and pictures on how we are feeling about our day, about others, and about our lives in general.  Opinions flying fast and loose like you-know-what in a chicken coop.

I think about this social media generation.  We no longer seek to understand WHY…we just want to be heard.  We wanna say something and we want everyone to hear it.  As mothers, how do we think that’s going to affect our children’s generation?

 A generation of fools does not raise up sages, but even greater fools.

And once we realize our mistakes on what we’ve broadcast, what we’ve said, and how we’ve cut someone with words far sharper than any sword, we try to backtrack.  Do you know how hard it is to call something back out of the ether?  Try it once…you’ll be sadly disappointed.

For all the good that can come from social media, there is a butt load of bad things, a few of which I’ve already mentioned.

So, I’m setting up some guidelines for myself…and you can hold me accountable.  You may need to remind me tomorrow.

Why?  I’ve got two little girls that are watching Sesame Street right now.  They deserve a good example.  Not just what I say or do to them, not just what I say or do in their presence.

One of these days, they are gonna ask, “Mommy, can I have my own [insert name of new-fangled social media site] account?”  And one of these days, I’m gonna allow it.

That’s when they’ll be able to see what Mommy has said about everything, what pictures she found important, what she focused on in her daily life.


You know what the opposite of gratefulness is? UNgratefulness.  And ungratefulness manifests itself by COMPLAINING, GRUMBLING and MURMURING (whining).

Do all things without grumbling or disputing; so that you will prove yourselves to be blameless and innocent children of God above reproach in the midst of a crooked and perverse generation, among whom you appear as lights in the world.”  (Philippians 2:14-15 NKJV)

It’s so easy to let a complaint slip here and there.  By complaining, I mean when there is needless cause.  It’s one thing to register a complaint with a company or person who needs to correct a wrong, but quite another to complain about it being too hot in Houston.  Hello?  It’s Houston.  As Andy Traub says in his book, The Early to Rise Experience (Kindle edition),

“Man, I hate this snow.” You live in South Dakota.  You hating snow is like a guy from Hawaii hating sand.  Get over it.

If ever I was ungrateful, One Thousand Gifts by Ann Voskamp (Hardcover)(Kindle edition)(Audiobook) changed my entire perspective from the reading of the very first chapter.  It’s a must-read.

I want to be grateful.  I want to be content in every circumstance.  First things first, speak life…type life…broadcast life.  Change a generation.  Be a light in the cesspool of darkness.

My children are depending on me to show them how to shine.

2.  ANYTHING BAD I HAVE TO SAY ABOUT SOMEONE WILL BE SAID TO THEIR FACE (or in the voting booth on election day)

God forgive me.  I had a conversation about someone the other day.  About someone I didn’t like and have no reason not to like.  ”Just a personality clash,” I explain.  Reality is…if I can’t say it to their face, I shouldn’t say it at all.  Even to my best friend…or the loads of friends and acquaintances on Facebook.  And, YES, it does matter even if I don’t name their name.  I’m putting out an example of how my children should think and talk about others.

The fleeting thrill that I get from telling someone off in an obscure status update will live on eternally in the ether.  One day, it will come back to haunt and embarrass me because I showed lack of self-control and compassion for others.  Let’s get real here.

And then, there is the airing of political opinions.  One of the greatest things about the USA is our right to Freedom of Speech.  But just because I can, doesn’t mean I should (I Corinthians 10:23-24).  To assault a public official on Facebook doesn’t get them out of office.  It just shows my inability to respect an office unless someone I voted for is holding the title.  A status update or tweet like that is evidence that I am a closed-minded jerk.

I will SHOW UP on election day, then SHUT UP if my candidate doesn’t win.

(If you disagree with what I’ve said in the political section here, see my post, The Only 4 Principles You Need to Teach Your Kids About Politics.


Read a devotion, or in some other way, ingest (listen, watch, etc.) something positive every day at the beginning of my day.  (Follow me @DblEEBlessed on Twitter or someone else you know that puts out a daily tweet.)  Joyce Meyer is also a great choice.  I love her.  Her daily devotionals, Trusting God Day by Day (Hardcover)(Kindle edition) and The Confident Woman Devotional (Hardcover)(Kindle edition), always hit me right between the eyes with positivity.

I have a friend who writes for WHOA Magazine for Women, Angela Wells, who is the epitome of positivity.  She lives it.  She breathes it.  She goes through trials with a smile on her face.   She smiles not because everything is perfect, but because she relies on God to take care of it.  I’m pretty sure I want to be her when I grow up.

Take the opportunity to be a light.  By having something positive at the ready, I REPLACE what I might have said negatively about the current weather.  :0)


Some people walk around with a pail of water, others with a pail of gasoline.  I can either put out a fire or I can help it grow.

Gossiping is not cool.  I will not assume that a particular person is talking about me.  I will not assume that I know all of the ins and outs of a situation because So&So told me Such&Such.

Social media can be a hot bed for gossip.  I choose whether I speak life or death.  I choose life no matter how thrilling it may be to participate in a heated discussion about What-Not.

Can’t we just all get along?  Yes.  Peace begins with me.


My life is my life.  Sometimes there are moments too special to share.  I want my friends to know that I am with them to BE with them, not just to be able to POST that I was with them.

I am, in no way saying, that that’s wrong, I’m just saying that every now and again…I don’t have to show that I’m cool by being with cool people.  Even though I really do think that my friends are the coolest people on the planet.

And, in order to live in a moment that is sacred and special, I don’t want to have to whip out my smart phone and take pictures and then spend the next five minutes posting…and then the rest of the night seeing how many hits that picture got.  No, my time with my friends and family is way too sacred for that.

I want to enjoy my husband, my children, my friends…and technology isn’t living and breathing.  It can wait.

All this is quite a lot to live up to, but it’s about learning not to jump off the bridge like everyone else.  I’m teaching my children to be different.  Be a light in darkness.

Normal is boring.

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  1. Donna

    June 28, 2013 at 10:58 pm — Reply

    This has changed my whole perspective re my posting on Facebook . God bless you , thank you .

  2. Mommy Square

    July 16, 2013 at 8:19 am — Reply

    Made it to #5, then was convicted. Sharing.

  3. Kim

    July 16, 2013 at 9:30 am — Reply

    Wow! What an inspiration. Thanks so much for this post. We are all guilty of these things and only we can change them. We want the next generation to be better but we have to ask ourselves are we contributing to a better future. We must hold ourselves accountable and realize kids are very impressionable. I know this will make me think twice about how and what I post because it is read by so many. I hope your blog makes a difference with many people!

  4. chelsea @ the new wifestyle

    July 16, 2013 at 11:39 am — Reply

    these are all fantastic things to remember-really great and simple way to remind people of this! i do have to say though…houston really is too hot-ha

    • Hevyn Allen

      July 16, 2013 at 3:17 pm — Reply

      Thanks, Chelsea! You are right about Houston. My point was just to sensor my own complaining. It seemed that my knee-jerk reaction was just to want to complain, a lot of times about the weather…

  5. Autumn

    July 16, 2013 at 3:06 pm — Reply

    Thanks for this awesome post! I constantly struggle with what I really want/wish to post on FB and what I really should/should not post.

  6. Becky

    July 16, 2013 at 8:11 pm — Reply

    These are great reminders for teenage daughters as well. These are exactly how I taught my girls to use Facebook years ago- but Im forwarding them a link to give them a “refresher course” now that they are both in college. It is sad that many teens tear each other down or complain about so much! Thx for sharing!

  7. emily

    July 16, 2013 at 8:59 pm — Reply

    I reallllly liked this, and I share a lot on facebook. While I would never talk poorly about someone on facebook, I will *sort of* disagree on #2. I think if you are having a legitimate challenge with someone and recognize the personality difference, a good friend can talk you through it. We are only human, and to keep our emotions bottled up when we feel angry towards someone can be harmful. I think it’s better in some cases to talk it out with a “third party” rather than confront someone and cause further trouble. Does this make sense? I am not one to gossip, and I try not to speak unfairly about others, but if I kept my frustrations inside about a boss, a “frenemy” or a certain family member, I would feel very isolated.
    But overall, I very much agree and enjoyed this post.

    • Hevyn Allen

      July 17, 2013 at 9:14 am — Reply

      Totally makes sense.

    • Hevyn Allen

      July 17, 2013 at 9:58 am — Reply

      Yes, I agree with you on a larger scale. We do need to talk through our frustrations. In this post, my main goal was just to put the spotlight on talking about others on Facebook in a malicious or ignorant way.

    • Ann

      July 20, 2013 at 11:36 am — Reply

      I agree that one should be free to talk through things with a friend but I still think it should be done in the privacy of a phone call or FB message rather than posting it for everyone to see. :)

    • Amber

      July 20, 2013 at 12:15 pm — Reply

      I agree with this to a certain extent. I think it depends largely on who that third party is. Do they know the person you’re talking about? I think it’s better to talk with someone who doesn’t personally know the person you are discussing.

  8. CJ

    July 16, 2013 at 9:03 pm — Reply

    Great advice! I see many cringeworthy posts on a daily basis and I wish people would all realize the actions they make on social media is permanent. I would however, say the brilliance with social media is that we are no longer sheep who are simply fed what the mainstream media decides to broadcast. While simply slamming a politician isn’t very classy, raising awareness around the issues that effect our freedoms and our tax dollars is a great way to use social media.

    • Hevyn Allen

      July 17, 2013 at 9:13 am — Reply

      I do agree with raising awareness so that our politicians know that we are unhappy. But, sadly, many people cannot separate the person from the issues. They immediately start slamming the person instead of remaining objectively critical. And, what’s more, they adopt others’ opinions as their own without researching the topic.

  9. K

    July 16, 2013 at 10:08 pm — Reply

    What I’ve learned? Don’t be afraid to put down the (smart/dumb)phone and take a break from the streaming picture-taking, the frantic texting about the next ToysRUs sale, and/or the phonetree about swim meet dues and simply BE PRESENT in your childrens’ lives. They’re precious and they’re growing up and away from us. We’re distracting ourselves and we’re missing THEM in order to “connect” to the periphery details that don’t matter in the end. Hang up and dial in :)

    • Hevyn Allen

      July 17, 2013 at 9:10 am — Reply

      Love that “Hang up and dial in.”

  10. Alicia

    July 16, 2013 at 10:27 pm — Reply

    Love this so much! I aspire to a few of these everyday and now I have a few more to add to the list! I can honestly say I never thought about complaining quite the way you explained it. I’m a Texas girl, and I can admit I totally IG the temp when I get in my car with whiny hashtags, haha! Thank you for giving me another perspective :)

  11. Erika

    July 16, 2013 at 10:48 pm — Reply

    This must have been a God thing! I am truly inspired by your article. It has really made be realize a lot of things I need to work on within myself. I have a very low self esteem, therefore I strive to do my very best to seek recognition or should I say…approval. I am this way not only with my family but my friends as well as my work family. The bad thing about it though is that I’m constantly disappointed or constantly on edge ESP with any type of criticism. Anyway….this seems to have had perfect timing and is really making me think things through in a different way than jumping the gun first so to speak! So for that…thank you so much!

  12. Wendy

    July 17, 2013 at 5:50 am — Reply

    Thank you for the bold reminder that even on social media God expects us to be His light not only to our children but to everyone that reads our posts.

  13. Kelly

    July 17, 2013 at 8:35 am — Reply

    The only problem I have with this is the “blessed mom” title could keep people from reading it. When EVERYONE needs to. Great blog! I am not a blessed mom but a blessed dad. (I know, I know…Kelly is a girl’s name. I’ve heard it my entire life! :) ) Not sure how I got here but glad I stopped by. :)

    And #5 got me as well. :\


    • Hevyn Allen

      July 17, 2013 at 9:59 am — Reply

      Thanks for reading, Dad!

    • Kelly D.

      July 18, 2013 at 4:46 pm — Reply

      A bit random and off topic:

      Kelly is Gaelic for warrior. Yours is spelled the masculine way… As is mine. Unfortunately, I am female. :/. Be proud of your good strong name Kel. ;)

  14. sara

    July 17, 2013 at 8:54 am — Reply

    This is fantastic! Exactly where God wanted me to be this morning reading your post! Thank you.

  15. Mike Welborn

    July 17, 2013 at 9:03 am — Reply

    Thanks for your well written article. You are right on when you say that once it gets to the ether it cannot be taken back. Many people are very brave about what they say on electronic media but are cowards when it comes to saying it to someone’s face or in public. We need to understand that people’s feelings are still hurt even if the quote is made electronically. I am amazed at the things that people will post but how they would never say it to someone in person. Thanks for a great article.

  16. Brittany

    July 17, 2013 at 2:54 pm — Reply

    This was great! I’m also careful to post about being out with friends because I try to be mindful of those who weren’t invited. I hate to feel left out and hate to make people feel that way. Also, I try to be careful about bragging on my kids. I read a blog post a whole back that struck me. As I’m posting about my child’s many victories at a mere 2 1/2 years of life, some parents of kids with disabilities can have feelings of sadness when they’re child isn’t reaching those milestones. Now, not to say I never brag, I just try to keep it to a minimum.

    • H

      July 20, 2013 at 6:49 am — Reply

      Thank you for being mindful of this. I try as hard as I can not to constantly feel rejected when all of my mom “friends” are out together having a great time and I am never included, but it really does feel like they’re just rubbing my face in it. Especially when they talk about it at church the next Sunday.

  17. Stephanie

    July 17, 2013 at 9:47 pm — Reply

    I liked this and agreed with everything but the political opinion section of #2. I WANT my children to understand the real meaning of freedom and civic responsibiilty. The people in the office have to be held accountable for their actions. I will NOT shut up when wrong is done, whether I voted for the person or not. They are supposed to represent me even, if I didn’t vote for them. I will agree that “personal” attacks are not proper behavior, but stating facts and calling out improper behavior, or stating my opinions on the said behavior, does NOT “prove” I am a close-minded jerk. It’s our civic responsibility to call attention to the matters at hand.

    • Hevyn Allen

      July 17, 2013 at 11:56 pm — Reply

      I agree with you, Stephanie. Whole-heartedly. In this particular paragraph, I was meaning “personal” attacks, of course… Facts and improper behavior by a public official are fair game due to the nature of their office and my opinions warranted as long as they remain objective.

  18. virginia davis

    July 17, 2013 at 11:27 pm — Reply

    perhaps God wants a situation to end and all options have been tried.

  19. Teresa Messick

    July 18, 2013 at 7:47 am — Reply

    God has been whispering in my ear about this very thing for many weeks now. How tempting it is to share everything because in some sick way, it makes us feel important. I want to get my importance from God, my creator! Thank you for putting this into the perfect list….it will go on my computor TODAY! May I share this on my blog (with a direct link and credit of course!)?

    • Hevyn Allen

      July 18, 2013 at 11:13 am — Reply

      Yes, please share (with a direct link). We need to BE the change on social media! Thanks, Teresa!

  20. Kathryn Rundblade

    July 18, 2013 at 7:51 am — Reply

    Wow, what a great reminder, each day, with all the different social medias out be aware, of what we say and post, how others perceive it. What kind of witnesses are we when this happens, I’ve read them, and know I’ve been guilty of some also .. May I be reminded each time to live as God would be watching, would he approve? Thanks

  21. Julia Bertillion

    July 18, 2013 at 10:43 am — Reply

    I love this! Keeping it positive and uplifting is what I got out of your post, which is great advice. I especially loved your last comment on keeping some things sacred!

  22. Karin Baker

    July 18, 2013 at 10:54 am — Reply

    I was afraid when I saw the title of this blog that it was going to be once again how social media makes people feel bad about themselves because people compare their lives to the lives presented on social media. I want to say thank you. I was pleasantly surprised by your blog and loved it. I think that social media can be and is there for people to connect, share their lives and blessings with one another. If I feel that I am less because I think someone else is better than me, then it is my own issue and I must look at myself to see why I am feeling that way. Social media has enhanced my life with being able to learn new things from others experiences, reconnect with old friends and even newer friends and share in their lives. I loved what you had to say and agree that it should be used for positive and uplifting things in our lives. Thank you!!

  23. Amanda

    July 18, 2013 at 11:44 am — Reply

    I’m not a mom, but my mom is a wonderful example of a godly woman and a prayer warrior. I respect my mom more than anyone else on this earth. While I agree with most of this article and found it to be laced with refreshing reminders and great verses, I have to say that being politically silent is not something my godly mother ever instructed me to do.

    We are currently under an administration that supports Planned Parenthood, an organization that misinforms women on the truth of their pregnancy (“it’s not a baby yet”) and helps terminate innocent babies everyday. This is barbaric and heart wrenching to me. Social media is an excellent way to inform people who might not know about the truth of abortion. Just today I was able to recruit several friends to sign a petition to defund Planned Parenthood.

    So, while I do think most of our posts should be positive, there are still negative realities that we must face and strive to change. Social media is a great way to promote change. It is not enough to simply vote and hope for the best.

    My mom has always taught me that to be silent is to be selfish.

    • Hevyn Allen

      July 18, 2013 at 12:42 pm — Reply

      I am in no way saying that we should be silent in political venues. My intent here was just to keep myself from falling into the trap of mud-slinging and name-calling. Any political office should be respected. However, “We the People” are given the right and responsibility to stand up for what is right. That being said, “We Christians” need to make sure we are confrontational without riotous and inflammatory language.

      There have been a few comments regarding this. In one paragraph, it is hard to fully expound on my opinion in this matter. I am going to, though, so as not to be misunderstood. Thanks for the comment!

  24. Amanda

    July 18, 2013 at 2:23 pm — Reply

    Thanks for this! I had examples racing in my head as I read each one. some I’ve done some have been done to me.

    one add I have is that I feel like it becomes my routine more than other things like a quiet time or time with my kid! my husband and I roll over and check facebook before we get out of bed. I need to replace that with my Bible! maybe that falls under #5 but almost could be it’s on category. It is a false god that is fed by our sinful vanity. Sometimes I realize that posts or responses to others may be so I can save the day or get widespread response and I let how many “likes” validate me as a person. #6 Worship something worthy not worthless!

  25. Kay Smith

    July 18, 2013 at 2:58 pm — Reply

    I feel this is a very good post. One thing though, my grandchildren live and will soon live farther away. I am so thankful for my daughters-in-law for posting pictures so I can feel connected to my grandchildren.
    I love being able to stay connected with former students that I had in high school, some I taught in kindergarten and elementary school. I try to be encouraging to them by my posts.

    • Hevyn Allen

      July 18, 2013 at 5:02 pm — Reply

      Yes, Kay! That’s what is WONDERFUL about social media. We can connect with one another of such great distances. I’m glad for your sake, and grandmothers like you (my mom AND mom-in-love, for instance), that we can share family time across the miles on these social media sites!

  26. maren

    July 18, 2013 at 4:04 pm — Reply

  27. mary

    July 18, 2013 at 4:41 pm — Reply

    #1 be grateful we live in alaska, so there can be LOTS of complaints in the winter about the weather. so this past winter, in reply, i would say things like, well, we don’t live in other parts of the world that are at war, never knowing if our children or husband or self will be killed while we watch, we are not in the places that had a terrorist invade a movie theatre or primary age school, not in a famine, we have plenty to eat and drink and our biggest problem is to decide which salad dressing of 10 dozen varieties to choose,not is there no food on the shelves at the store, did not have flooding, a tornado, etc. they stop and think for a minute and say, i guess you are right. i say, our weather is really a minor problem compared to these other life and death situations. we all walk away thinking and grateful. :)

  28. Ginger

    July 18, 2013 at 5:47 pm — Reply

    Better still than (and/or in addition to) posting on social media is to write those representatives directly! I’m guilty of voting and then putting out elected officials on autopilot.

    I’ve lately had the privilege of hearing this Constitutional expert speak at our church recently, and I’ve learned a lot.

    He’s also pointed out the Heritage Foundation as a resource for a daily synopsis (via their blog or emails) as to the issues and also they provide simple templates so we can easily write about issues we’re concerned about.

  29. oj

    July 18, 2013 at 8:28 pm — Reply

    A young friend posted this. She went to school with my son, I had not read your blog before that. THIS is wisdom, and you put it so well. I thank you for that, and will pay attention to what I say. Applies to everyone. Thanks. I hope to read more of your blogs.

  30. Andrea

    July 18, 2013 at 11:47 pm — Reply

    Thank You for this! I’ve been guilty of this more than I’d like to admit. This really just hit home that I need stand apart with my words. I want my life to be a witness and words are so powerful.

  31. Dawn

    July 19, 2013 at 7:02 am — Reply

    Thank you for a great post. I have always felt that social media, esp Facebook was something to be enjoyable. Connect with friends and family in a fun way. We have voting, email or letters, and phones to help us with our political agendas so there should be some media for just saying positive and fun things. Just my opinion. :)

  32. Jamie

    July 19, 2013 at 7:12 am — Reply

    Thank you!

  33. Ginger

    July 19, 2013 at 11:51 am — Reply

    One of the things I appreciate most about Facebook…..the power it gives us/others to “rally the prayer warriors” for things that come up in our lives. A family suddenly faces a terrible illness — a FB group is created, people “like” it, and suddenly, that family is surrounded by countless people (both friends and others unknown to them) who are praying and/or offering encouragement. The joy of the birth of a child — a simple FB post brings well-wishes flooding into that family’s world. Same for birthdays. Just my thoughts.

    Thanks for your post – I enjoyed reading it, and will definitely share it! :)

    • Hevyn Allen

      July 19, 2013 at 11:54 am — Reply

      Yes! FB is wonderful for that. When I was on bed rest for 6.5 weeks in the hospital with my twins, FB was how my hubby easily kept all of our friends, family, and well-wishers updated on the daily status of our little unborn miracles. I love that about FB.

      Thanks for your comment!

  34. Dianna Gould

    July 19, 2013 at 12:20 pm — Reply

    this is wonderful! I have always tried to watch what I post, not only for the public eye, but for myself, and never once did I look at how it my impact the younger generation. While reading, I realized that I too am guilty of some of this and I thankyou for helping me realize it.

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  36. Beth Libson

    July 19, 2013 at 11:19 pm — Reply

    Thanks for your thought provoking post. We all need to remember how public & permanent our social media comments often are. One of the advantages of passing 50 (& there are a few) is hopefully acquiring a little wisdom. I decided some time ago to try to be positive, except perhaps for an urgent prayer request, and uplifting in my FB posts. At its worse FB is the “mean kid’s” table in eighth grade-full of boasting, criticism, and pain inducing remarks. At its best FB allows the quick sharing of prayer requests and praise for answered prayers, and uplifting or smile inducing tidbits. I certainly make mistakes in this area, & continue to learn but acting as if EVERYTHING I post will be on a roadside billboard (although the internet is international, not just one road) has certainly helped my perspective.

  37. ginger

    July 20, 2013 at 9:36 am — Reply

    I agree 100% Awesome article.

  38. Heather

    July 20, 2013 at 1:22 pm — Reply

    There is a lot of wisdom in this post. I’d also like to add that what we post on the internet is like a “digital tattoo.” even if/when it’s erased, it’s stored somewhere and CAN be used against (or for us) at some point.
    Also, it’s not safe for people to constantly be posting their whereabouts. Criminals take advantage of vacant homes of people on vacation or business trips, and can know their every move when people post where they are and what they’re doing every hour.

  39. mistie

    July 20, 2013 at 1:31 pm — Reply

    I often (too often) feel bad about not posting enough, especially with friends and family spread near and far. Your post was a good reminder and filter as I inconsistently ease my toes into the waters.
    Thanks. Thankful for my sister posting this- good choice, and look forward to more of your blog.

  40. Sherry P

    July 20, 2013 at 5:09 pm — Reply

    Wow, talk about hitting me in the face from the scripture down. A lot of good advice and I don’t believe in coincidences that I stumbled across this. God put me here to see and read it. Thanks for posting and sharing.

  41. Elle Knowles

    July 20, 2013 at 5:37 pm — Reply

    When you are mad and want to be vindictive it is so easy to hit that post button! Think about it first!

  42. Irene

    July 20, 2013 at 7:44 pm — Reply

    Great recommendations and thoughtful insight. Technology has changed how we communicate so rapidly in the last few years.
    NOTE: I don’t understand why you posted ‘Normal is Boring’ at the bottom. Normal is not boring. I’m from a family of many loved members that are depressed, bi-polar, mentally ill etc., some people yearn for normal. Be grateful for normal.

    • Hevyn Allen

      July 20, 2013 at 9:53 pm — Reply

      “Normal is boring” is not referring to an emotional/mental/physical state. It is referring to the status-quo. The peer pressure to look, be, act like everyone else. God made us individuals. Every creation He made is unique and should be celebrated. Fitting in with what the world sees as “normal” is not what I aspire to. 2 Corinthians 6:17 says, “Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you.” THIS is what I meant by “Normal is boring.” Be a light in darkness.

  43. Danielle

    July 20, 2013 at 9:39 pm — Reply

    I think this is a great list. Seems like this should be common sense, but we all need a reminder every now and then. I would add that #1-4 apply to famous people and current events as well. I don’t always think about that. Spreading negative, hurtful comments, even about someone I don’t personally know or a situation I don’t completely understand may not hurt that person or situation, but it sure works on my heart and the hearts of my friends.

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  48. Dianne Carpenter

    July 21, 2013 at 4:16 pm — Reply

    When my children were little, I would tell friends and family the funny happenings involving them…. there came a time when my eldest son found out I had told a story about him and he was quite hurt and embarrassed. It was then I realize that part of #5 is asking permission before I tell stories. and if people ask me for info, it is all right to say “it’s not my story to tell”.

  49. KR

    July 21, 2013 at 9:40 pm — Reply

    Please don’t use the term “butt load” if the original term “boat load” will do. The former is crass and ugly. Thanks.

  50. Jessilyn

    July 21, 2013 at 9:41 pm — Reply

    Maybe before anyone joins a social network, they need to learn Netiquette 101.
    That’s all :v

  51. Shinobu

    July 22, 2013 at 12:52 am — Reply

    This is so true! My life has changed since I started using a journal app which makes writing a journal entry as easy as writing a status post. I no longer write my thoughts on fb, I write them in my journal. Ad I have learnt so much recently, gaining inspiration and understanding. Good to see other women understanding and sharing this principle!

  52. Rickiey Broughman

    July 22, 2013 at 9:03 am — Reply

    Awesome as always everyone who’s on any web site should read your log first AMEN

  53. Lori

    July 22, 2013 at 9:10 am — Reply

    This is a great article with so much truth! FB is a wonderful tool to keep in touch with my far away friends, or my kids when they’re gone from home, but I’ve so often been bothered by the seemingly needless posts, boring everyday stuff….when I don’t need to know another mom’s to-do list or the seemingly boasting posts that make them sound like super-women for all they’ve gotten done in a day. Thanks for speaking out. We are accountable! and Yes, words are either life or death…. love the take every chance to minister!

  54. Michele

    July 22, 2013 at 3:07 pm — Reply

    Remember that there is NO context in writing, therefore a reader could take something and be offended when you meant no offence. If you have to start out the sentence with, “I hate to say…”, “In my opinion….”, “I shouldn’t…..”, or the world’s worst, “Be praying for….” UNLESS the last one is a legit prayer request and not an excuse for gossip, then you probably don’t need to be saying it at all.

    Love without truth is wishy-washy, but truth without love is a beating.

    Love this post!

  55. Andy Traub

    July 22, 2013 at 3:47 pm — Reply

    Thanks for the quote from my book! My wife saw your post and that you quoted the book. Wonderful post for moms everywhere. By the way, love your header font too. Artsy but still readable.

    • Hevyn Allen

      July 24, 2013 at 1:22 pm — Reply

      I am honored that you read the article! My husband and I are BIG fans of your work. Thanks for the inspiration.

  56. Christie Jarvis

    July 23, 2013 at 9:33 am — Reply

    Excellent article! I agree with you 100%! I try very hard to not be negative on social media. Yes, I am frustrated sometimes but I don’t want to post all of that for the world to see.

    I look forward to reading more from you. Be blessed!!

  57. Leni

    August 7, 2013 at 6:52 pm — Reply

    Not sure if it’s been mentioned yet, but I detest cryptic messages that are meant to stir the pot. Post a cryptic message, then sit back and watch people beg you to tell them what’s going on. And then never explain…what is the reasoning for that? It’s nothing but negative attention-seeking.

  58. Elizabeth

    September 5, 2013 at 7:18 am — Reply

    I agree with you 100%! So glad you were able to put it in words that other people can understand. I will share this with pride. Thanks for spreading truth in our lives!

  59. Cody Doll

    October 30, 2013 at 11:42 am — Reply

    I just love this post. I wish more people would read and understand this. There are so many people that don’t do any of that. Thanks for the post.

  60. Kathryn

    November 19, 2013 at 9:21 am — Reply

    Well said and a great reminder.


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